Irrisistable attractions

I was at a funeral yesterday and I saw one hella fine cousin of mine. Well it was the first time I saw him. So he came over to my aunts place to fetch us(my aunt and I) and as he stood on the door post, the sun just shined so bright behind him that I couldn't even look straight at him. I took my aunts bag and walked towards the door, my aunt talking in the background and all I could hear was iufvjhsjnkdhbehffb. So I walked closer to him, the sun brighter and brighter as I walked closer to him, eventually I arrived at the door and didn't know what to do, he held the security gate open for me to pass as I whispered "Hi" to him. He responded softly with a hello. As I was dead walking to the car, he overtaked me, all I saw was his tall thin and edible body structure covered in a fashion disastrous clothing. He turned back to look how far behind my aunt and I were and my knees immediately felt so light I believed I was walking on air. He has a light coffee coloured skin, his face so flawless not even Mac's cosmetics cant match, He's tall and skinny, not THAT skinny but just skinny, He has well proportioned eyes, and nose, pinkish lips with "spuur wit" teeth. Oh My Gosh thatboy is sexy. His lack for good taste in clothing is forgiven due to his great body features, hes just one of those people who deserve to be viewed naked, He deserved to be in the garden of Eden. He's one of those people who make you get angry at adam and eve for eating the forbidden fruit, you get me! My path and His just couldn't stop bumbing into each other, well in my case it was intentional I don't know about his. Everytime I bumped into him all I did was look into his shining eyes and say hi. Oh I love that boy!

So the reason for me writing this post is because I've realised that most of us, if not all of us are sexually/emotionally attracted to our cousins or even siblings. Some of us cant wait for the next family gathering because you just cant wait to see that one or two or three persons who just instantly make you horny when you see them, your hotzzz family members.

I've ones read a blog post a few years ago where this guy said the reason he realised he was gay was because he was attracted to his oldest cousin. Whenever there was a Family gathering, he would forcefully make means to sleep in the same room with him, which then led to them having consensual sex after a while. This happened continuously as they were growing up and today the older cousin has a wife and kids and the other one is a single gay guy who frequently has sex, still, with the now married cousin.

Some say that being sexually attracted to your cousin is immoral, but is there anything wrong with appreciating the great looking product your aunt made? Is there anything wrong in having fun and pleasure with your cousin/sibling? Okay maybe theres something wrong with sibling! I mean whats the difference between having a no strings attached fling with a stranger and your cousin? If he/she is irrisistable, why should you resist?

Im now in my room a day after the funeral and angry at myself for not introducing myself to him, my handsome cousin. I haven't slept desperately searching for him on every social network. I don't even know his name, all I have is his surname. Im so angry at my shyness to the point where im starving myself right now. If I had developed the guts to just ask for his name, contacts and even get to know him better, I could've been the happiest gay guy today. I just couldn't stop dreaming about him, day and night, dreaming I tell you. I've even made a pact with myself that next time I see him I MUST take action, MUST!

I'm a promoter of happiness. I believe theres nothing better than being happy in life, and if having a one night stand, a regular fling, a no strings attached or whatever that tickles your happiness, with someone that you desire, go ahead, as long as you'll be responsible in taking that action, and make sure there aren't any consequences.

In conclusion: if one can masturbate over a celebrity crush, why cant one masturbate over a relative crush?????

 

Bomb Shell's

Pallance Dladla

 @pallancedladla

Ty Keogh

@tykeogh

Phila Madlingozi

@p_maq

Phila Mazibuko

@phila_mazibuko

 

 

Lunga Shabalala

@lungashabalala

 

 

 

 

 

Brighton Ngoma

@iambrighton



Lehasa Moloi

@hasaling

 

 

 

 



Masego 'Maps' Maponyane

@s_maps

 

 

 

 

Ongeziwe Lupuwana

@OzJustWarm

Sikhululo 'Dj Lulo Cafe' Maliwa

@lulocafe

Leslie ' Da L.E.S' Mampe Jnr

@2freshLES

 

 

 





Dumi Masilela

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love love love

You know sometimes life just drags you to the floor when you don't deserve to be on the floor. This has nothing to do with being humble and all, but it does in a way. LoL. What I'm trying to emphasise is that e.g. if your regarded as being a humble person, bad things seem to hover and follow you. Whereas when your rude, all good comes at a flick of a finger.

 

Cutting the chase a bit shorter, to me it seems like Lesbians are much more happier than gays in
South Africa. Lesbians are a close knit family that take care of each other, build each other, motivate and uplift each other. I've never heard of sub-categories within lesbianism, unless I'm not well informed. Lesbians are lesbians, and they love each other like that. As for gays, we have straight acting gays, fem gays, drag gays, after nine gays, gay gays...etc. This may seem like a petty issue but it bothers me because it just proves how segregated we are, love is lacking within our family. I often hear statements from "straight" gays saying that they hate "fem" gays and they would never date them unless if they are just sex partners, Or rather state that:drag  gays are bitches, they deserve to be prostitutes, or better yet, killed. All this being uttered from the mouth of a man who has sexual ties with another man! HOW REDICULOUS!

I just turned 19 a month ago, and through all my nineteen years of gay life, I've never had a relationship that lasted more than 2 months, either the "partner" is only interested in sex, which I don't offer, or he doesn't want to be seen in public with a gay guy, but yet he says he loves me. Yes, we are not married and there's no need for strings and commitments between us, but cant you at least be more of a partner than a passer-by. In most cases you'll find that the bottom partner has dreams of getting married one day, and the tops dreams and future plans revolve around bedroom matters only. Is it because we bottoms have feelings and emotions and our handsome tops have only sexual needs? Why is there a lack of understanding and tender loving care within our community as opposed to the Lesbian community??? Do gay guys even enjoy valentines?

Its hurts me a lot when I see gay guys enjoy being one night standees. You log in on a social network and all you see is gay guys being in a "no strings attached" relationship or "friends with BEDnefits" relationship. Why cant we love, or at least why cant we like each other then? Where is the love? W hat happened to the Bromance concept???

#Lord help us.

Take care of yourself: Make the right choice

I was wasn't planning on writing another post so soon, but I just could't let this wait for longer. The reason I'm posting this is because as I was visiting one of my aunts at the hospital, I asked myself: "how many people in this world today are a 100% sure about their health status?". This really worries me because I lost my grand-father a month ago due to the fact that he went to the hospital late, my eldest aunt cannot live ten minutes without her oxygen pump, my third eldest aunt is in hospital right now due to cancer and brain tumour and my mother lost her half sister to cancer two weeks ago. This really gets me worried.

What I'm trying to prove is that most of us, if not all of us visit our GP's only when we catch flu or experience something EXTREMELY unusual with your body. Its not that we can't afford medical attention, there are many medical centres that are free to the consumer's, but yet we don't utilise them to our benefit.

Its not only that, but the fact that we live recklessly. We do not care up until that very last moment when your on the edge of life. Our lifestyles are dangerous to our own bodies, forgetting that if our bodies fail us, that very lifestyle will have to stop. Why can't we take care of ourselves? Why do we only connect immensely with our spiritual beings when there's split seconds left for us to die? Why are we so careless?

Life is made up of choices. The longer you want to live, the smarter your choices need to be. The happier you want to live, the better your choices need to be. You are what you are because you chose to be that. Choices go together with actions. If your lazy, your going to make choices that compliment your laziness, then the worse your life becomes. Make healthy choices, choices that not only benefit you today, but for a longer period of time.

The number of health related deaths is shocking. Most of these death caused mainly by a person's choice to be ignorant. Why can't we take care of our health just as we take care of our image/status, our relationships/sex life,  our assets? Can we please just go for regular check-ups, for yourself, for
your health. Let us pro-long our lives so that we can make ourselves and dependants/acquaintances happy.

The reason why life is too short is because your choices were not aimed at making it long. Let us take care of our health, prevention is better than cure. Know your health status and live life cautiously.

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Why can't we all be one

I really find it hard to accept the fact that we as people are categorised. Maybe it makes it easier for those who do admin etc., but what disturbs me the most is the fact that we as humans segregate ourselves. We group ourselves, discriminate against each other and judge each other. Yes its OK you can choose who you want to associate with, its partially OK to have enemy's and people you just dislike, but to pre-judge a person by the colour of his/her skin, they're sexuality, their culture, literacy level, is just insane.

You may be asking yourself why I wrote this post. Its merely because there's this guy that I like madly and I believe he also feels something for me. Getting to the point, I asked him why we aren't together in some form of relationship and the answer he gave me is because he is straight and I'm not. Thinking about it, he is affected by societies discrimination against homosexuality. I know there are people who can't be together merely because they have different skin colours, or they are from different cultures, different locations, and/ mental capabilities. You hear people saying " I can't date so&so because he's from a poor family". Like W.T.F, is that really necessary in our lifetime.

We keep on saying we've evolved from the way our gran-parents/parents think, act and get things done. But have we really? really?? 1) We keep on wearing the clothes they wore (vintage, colour-blocking e.t.c), why can't we create our own trends, for our children to call vintage. 2) We are just as stereotyped as they are 3) We continuously follow they're norms and standards. Why? why? why? I mean if women were forced to be housewives in those days, why are women still housewives just because the husband said so? Why do we have so called after9's, if we say that we accept homosexuals. Why do we find a man married heterosexually being sexually attracted to a homosexual man? Why do we have such high numbers of boys being raped by other boys? Why do we have boys who continually have sex with other boys at school hostels, university residences, boarding schools, and boys only schools? This is only because we are discriminating against them, just as much as discrimination was the "in thing" in the 20th century, we have not evolved nor revolved from the thinking of 20th century.

Can we please just be free, can we practice our freedom the way we were destined to. Can we stop creating barriers when there's no need to. If you want to date a poor guy/girl, please do so without thinking about your status and what people are gonna say. If your a lesbian, can you please be true to yourself and stop doing things behind closed doors. Can we be one and stop categorising each other. Can we please be happy and let others be happy as well. Can we please stop discriminating against each other. Can we learn and have knowledge of what love truly is. Because if this guy knew what love is, knew how to love unconditionally and let love prevail, my sexuality wouldn't be an excuse for us to form a relationship. Let us let love prevail.

Let us practice the love that God shows upon us. LOVE just LOVE.

 

Why is it so hard to get accepted

Everywhere I go, everyone I see looks at me like I'm some alien from an unknown planet, and I really fail to understand this. Firstly I'm not the only homosexual in the world, there are millions if not billions of others out there. Secondly, I don't dress myself like I'm a drag queen covered in half a dozen layers of make-up, I just dress appropriately. Thirdly, I don't walk like some nasty bitch on a ramp, but yet almost everyone looks at me in awe. Why cant people just accept the fact that we are all unique and created for different purposes, thus we are bound to have different tastes  and desires. why do they expect me to be a human being they want me to be.

Enough about society and their norms and standards. The reason I wrote this blog is because I'm amazed at how  families treat the "situation" of having a homosexual child. I mean my own blood relative has a drag queen friend, and they've accepted him and treat him/her (LoL) like an ordinary human being. No unnecessary stares and glares, no stupid questions, and certainly no awed looks. I also believe that 50% of her friends are gay, but yet when I unleash myself, the alien treatment rises from nowhere. The same individual who has gay friends will ask me "why this", "why that", "are you mad", "what's wrong with you", "this is just so wrong", yadah yadah yadah...Then comes your extended family, they have gay colleagues, but yet when you as a relative walk in or walk out as yourself, they too would ask why why why why why... or rather, they would AGAIN look at you in amazement like your an alien. #rolling eyes... And I fail to understand, why do I get treated like this whereas all my other fellow homo's are being accepted for being true to themselves, even those who lie to themselves (bi-guys/versatile/straight-acting) are being lauded for being part of the lgbti family (sort of). How do they expect me to feel? How do I overcome such prejudice? How do I stop being a victim of stereotype?

Its such negative attitude we get from our supposedly close and loved that keep us in the closet. This stereotypical way of thinking is the cause of many suicide acts that homosexuals undertake. Sometimes a nod of approval is the key one needs in order to fulfil their dreams, but if we are rejected, sorrow, pain and failure will keep on following us. BUT, I have a solution. This solution is God, he said in His word, "he will never leave me nor forsake me" and if I dwell upon His promises I know he will make a way for me. All I need to do is to let him be my all, then He will make me His all, something no human can do. So let them keep on treating me like an alien, God says I was created in his image. Whether they like it or not, I will make myself and God happy, because that's what matters.

Hope you enjoyed the reading, and continue living a gay (English dictionary version) life.